The First Day of Kindergarten
The kindergarten teacher asked the child to pick up the blocks. She was surprised and frustrated, because she had to ask repeatedly without compliance. “We always give him plenty of warnings,” said his mom, “And then we count to three. He will totally listen it if you raise your voice.” Later that day, the teacher asked the children to line up for recess. The boy ran away. The teacher ended having to chase him around to get him inside. “We always have to run and get him,” said mom, “When we say come, he always runs the other way.”
Again, as the teacher offered him a choice of activities, he did not comply. “Do you want to paint or play in the block area?” “I want to go outside.” She repeated her choice. “I want to do the computer.” The third time, she repeated the choice as her energy was draining. “Paints or blocks?” she firmly asks. “I want Legos,” he replies. Again, mom told of how they handle this at home. He isn’t held accountable for the limits they set for him - he gets to choose outside of the choices given. After just one day, what is the teacher’s opinion of this child? Compliant or noncompliant? With all the extra energy this child requires, will that teacher choose him to take the attendance to the office? Will she ask him to be a line leader? Will she call on him, or will she avoid the risk of having him not listen. At the end of the year, as she tells the first grade teacher about the child, what will her assessment be? The first day of school can set the tone for his entire school experience.
All this can be avoided by using simple, effective parenting techniques. Prevention parenting at a young age can set the stage for school success.